Rock Her World: A Man’s Guide to Women

I think it’s very difficult to write a book like this without objectifying the ... uh ... object of the whole exercise, that is, women. However, in my opinion, K.K. has achieved this goal – he deserves a resounding thanks from all women who will date men who read – and heed – his instructions. The author demonstrates a notable respect for women as well as refreshing common sense throughout the book. K.K. builds his case, and takes his examples, from women he has known, offering many amusing anecdotes of his experiences to illustrate the various points he makes. My only quibble is that, at 404 pages, it is a very hefty book, but it lacks a table of contents or index to assist the reader to quickly find the parts that he (or she) needs most. It does, however, have a suggested reading list.

In Part 1, The Art and Science of Girlwatching, the author states, “Try not to judge women solely on their looks.” Though the reasons he gives are definitely from a man’s point of view, for example, “The more beautiful she is, the more paranoid you get.” in general, this attitude certainly benefits women. The author also debunks many of the myths of relationships, including “No really means yes,” and “If I spend money on her on a date, she has to sleep with me.”

If I had the opportunity to meet K.K. in person, I would have to give him a big kiss and a hug (purely platonic, of course) for writing my favorite section of the book, his “$300-a-week-Playboy Self-Improvement Guide” for men. In it, the author addresses many hygiene and behavior issues that women always notice, such as regular bathing and brushing one’s teeth. I hope that when they hear it from another guy, aspiring playboys will take these instructions to heart!

Part 2, Making Contact, is about meeting women, and getting them to go out on a date. Again, the author presents common sense guidelines to men that are respectful to women. Whether it’s right or wrong – and I think it’s wrong – most dating overtures in American society are initiated by the guy. K.K. explains why it is ok to “crash and burn” and then gives some reasons for, and help in correcting, chronic crash-and-burn-itis. He describes how to meet, how to make small talk, and lists some “target-rich environments.”

Also in Part 2, K.K. recommends the use of “Monkey Wrenches,” a technique which rests on the theory that women like to fix men, so why not give the woman something to fix. I personally do not agree with this theory, as it never worked with me, nor with the use of Monkey Wrenches as the author describes them. However, the efficacy of this method can only be proven by use in the field by the practitioner, so I will reserve judgment on this advice.

Part 3, The Care & Feeding of Girlfriends, includes the Sacred Signs that a girl is now a girlfriend, how to impress her parents, a list of things women love and hate (YMMV), and Helpful Hints For the Ladies in Our Lives – this one is an excellent reality check! Also included in this chapter are detailed instructions on how to make love to a woman, a feature which I heartily endorse.

All in all, I was very impressed with this Guide to Women. It contains a lot of valuable advice for both men and women. In fact, I think everyone, not just men, should read it. Good work, K.K.!

Reviewed by: Jean